Well, it has finally happened. The dreaded, "mom can you just give me kisses here" before we go inside the school building. He is officially too cool to be seen kissing his mom goodbye. :'( He will be 7 in September and it seem like just yesterday that he was toddling around. The husband will complain that H talks a lot, and he does, but I keep telling him that one day soon he will stop talking with us at all. I am praying that the open lines of communication are always there and that it is a long time before this happens. With every year that passes new parenting issues arise. But they are amazing when you look back and see the growth that you have nurtured.
So today, even though I had to give kisses outside or where his friends will not see, at least I am still getting those sweet hugs & kisses from him!
Friday, July 8, 2011
Thursday, July 7, 2011
Support...
Its very important! Any kind of support! But the best you can find is someone in the same situation as you, like other mothers of multiples. This is not a knock on singleton moms, because I was one before the girls, but twins are a whole other world. I thought that raising one baby was very hard and I specifically remember complaining about the little things. NOW after twins I know how easy it really was. I do not dismiss though the complaints from singleton moms but it is harder to find sympathy. And two babies close together is also not the same as having twins! In the same instance, having just twins is not the same as having twins and a singleton. I think that twins alone are easier than having other children in the mix. There are stressful times that I envy singleton mothers and even moms that have just twins alone. Every family is unique and has their own dynamic, we are not to judge who is right and who is wrong or who has it harder than the other. Looking on what works for you and keeping balance. Then I look at all three of my beautiful children, not just when they are sleeping, but I see them and I think of the wonderful creation that God gave me and entrusted to me, and I know that I am blessed beyond measure to have my babies in what ever order/timing they came into this world.
When the girls where about 3 months old, they contracted RSV and were hospitalized for 6 days. This was the worst time in my life emotionally. I can only see it as hindsight is 20/20, but I was suffering from PPD. My problem was that I felt like no one acutally listen to what I needed. I didnt feel as if I need medication and I was no where near the place of hurting myself or the babies, but I was angry and tired and had lost myself. The girls took all of me. Even though I did have my mom and my inlaws, I felt as if I carried all the load and burden and needs of my babies. I broke that week. It was a very trying time in MY life, my marriage, and my family. I wish I could change it and demand that my needs be heard and a solution made. I wish that I had some other moms of multiples that could have stepped in and really could connect with emotionally and trust with all my darkest times.
The thing is, whether your a singleton/twins/triplet/ect. mommy, I feel we all need this help. I am not sure if it was the counseling or just time that healed but I am going on 2 years this fall that this actually happened. I am stronger now. I still have weak days, especially if the girls are sick or all three sick, but I know that these days will pass. I wonder how many other MoM out there just need a full day break from the stresses. We as a society are becoming more self serving and we actually need to be more sensitive and see others needs and help out. I have promised myself that once there kids are older, so the husband is not overwhelmed, that I will offer my help to a new mother.
We try to paint our families as perfect. Pictures on facebook, emails, and photo albums. They paint a pretty picture. But in reality that is not real life at all. I like to tell people when they say, thats a great family picture, that that is just literaly one second in time. Because the next picture would be of the girls going two different directions and a 6 year old pouting. That is life. I wish we could be more real with people, with out the fear of judgement. But again in reality we can't. That is what I struggle with. Who in this world really will not judge? No one. Only God loves us as we are. I trust in Him and He will sustain me!
I say all this, as this was my experience. Not all MoM struggle as I did. But sometimes I wonder how many really do but never say anything? I hope this was not a downer post, but we all have ups and downs. I am on my way up emotionally and enjoying life as it comes and learning not to stress out over the little things. As my mom says, pick your battles!
When the girls where about 3 months old, they contracted RSV and were hospitalized for 6 days. This was the worst time in my life emotionally. I can only see it as hindsight is 20/20, but I was suffering from PPD. My problem was that I felt like no one acutally listen to what I needed. I didnt feel as if I need medication and I was no where near the place of hurting myself or the babies, but I was angry and tired and had lost myself. The girls took all of me. Even though I did have my mom and my inlaws, I felt as if I carried all the load and burden and needs of my babies. I broke that week. It was a very trying time in MY life, my marriage, and my family. I wish I could change it and demand that my needs be heard and a solution made. I wish that I had some other moms of multiples that could have stepped in and really could connect with emotionally and trust with all my darkest times.
The thing is, whether your a singleton/twins/triplet/ect. mommy, I feel we all need this help. I am not sure if it was the counseling or just time that healed but I am going on 2 years this fall that this actually happened. I am stronger now. I still have weak days, especially if the girls are sick or all three sick, but I know that these days will pass. I wonder how many other MoM out there just need a full day break from the stresses. We as a society are becoming more self serving and we actually need to be more sensitive and see others needs and help out. I have promised myself that once there kids are older, so the husband is not overwhelmed, that I will offer my help to a new mother.
We try to paint our families as perfect. Pictures on facebook, emails, and photo albums. They paint a pretty picture. But in reality that is not real life at all. I like to tell people when they say, thats a great family picture, that that is just literaly one second in time. Because the next picture would be of the girls going two different directions and a 6 year old pouting. That is life. I wish we could be more real with people, with out the fear of judgement. But again in reality we can't. That is what I struggle with. Who in this world really will not judge? No one. Only God loves us as we are. I trust in Him and He will sustain me!
I say all this, as this was my experience. Not all MoM struggle as I did. But sometimes I wonder how many really do but never say anything? I hope this was not a downer post, but we all have ups and downs. I am on my way up emotionally and enjoying life as it comes and learning not to stress out over the little things. As my mom says, pick your battles!
Wednesday, July 6, 2011
Movin' on up...
I am so excited! We finally got the notice that our girls are moving up to the toddler room at school! Of course we knew is was coming sometime in August but they got it earlier. They will be starting there on Monday! So many changes are coming in the next months. I got to thinking about it and once the girls move up there they will have more learning experiences and new friends that they can learn from, hopefully only the good things! :)
Things to come this year I'm sure: moving to the toddler room at school, turning two, potty training, toddler beds, playing more in their rooms v/s in the living room. This all leads to us reclaiming our living room and study. Not that there will no longer be toys in there but...
We have already changed in the kitchen and all eat as a family of 5! I love it!
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The above picture is the new arrangement and they are playing with playdoh for the first time!
Also, last night while walking down the hallway to take the girls to bath, they noticed their pool floats that were drying. They just kept saying wawe over and over and also pool! They were so excited and I cannot wait for the beach and to see their little faces light up over the excitement of all the new experiences they will have!
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Fun times ahead...we just keep movin' on up!!
Things to come this year I'm sure: moving to the toddler room at school, turning two, potty training, toddler beds, playing more in their rooms v/s in the living room. This all leads to us reclaiming our living room and study. Not that there will no longer be toys in there but...
We have already changed in the kitchen and all eat as a family of 5! I love it!
The above picture is the new arrangement and they are playing with playdoh for the first time!
Also, last night while walking down the hallway to take the girls to bath, they noticed their pool floats that were drying. They just kept saying wawe over and over and also pool! They were so excited and I cannot wait for the beach and to see their little faces light up over the excitement of all the new experiences they will have!
Fun times ahead...we just keep movin' on up!!
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Good times...
I would say that this weekend was a success. With the exception that we did not see the fireworks that were to occur at 9pm Monday evening. I thought they were going to be a 8 and had every intention to go see them, but since they were another hour later, I just couldn't imagine what we were going to do for 3 hours past the girls bedtime. And yes, our girls go to bed between 6:30 and 7.
Saturday, I had a few running around things that I wanted to do. Accomplished and at home for nap and then a date afternoon. We got back home from our date around 7:15pm. We let the in laws babysit the kids and told them that the girls should be in bed by 7pm. Of course we get home and they are NOT in bed. In law tells us that they rocked a little and they were trying to wind down. Whatever!! First, they know that we do not rock the girls to sleep. They may live in fantasy land but it was just not feasible for us to rock the girls to sleep. We put them in bed and they may fuss a few minutes but they either go right to sleep or talk to each other before going to sleep. J tells them to wait a couple minutes and we will put them to bed and then we could talk more. Of course the m in law didn't want to wait because she didn't want to hear them crying. Really??? I am hoping that when we spend several days at the beach with them that they will see our method and understand how it works. Because it really does work. ( the kicker is that my sis in law, their daughter, also have twins. my in laws are at her house all the time and practically raise her kids and their bedtime situation is much different than ours and also a lot more chaotic. meaning, I cant stand it. but that is a whole other situation/story!) Funny thing is the girls didn't even fuss that night!
Sunday was church and it was a good day!
Monday was July 4th! I decided last minute to call a friend and see if we could use her pool that morning. Thankfully she said yes and by 8:30 we were pooling it! The girls did great and I believe are going to do great when we go to the beach! I cannot wait!
That evening J said to me that it was a great weekend and wanted to know why this weekend seem so much easier and more relaxed then normal? He wanted to repeat it! I hope this is a sign that things are getting a little less chaotic in my organized chaos! :)
On another note... The girls were moved to regular booster seats at the table. We now eat as a family of 5 at our dinner table and I love it!
Also, we played with play-doh yesterday for the first time. I got brave and tried not to worry about the mess. The twins loved it and H has always loved playdoh. Good times and not too much mess. They did try to eat it but never took a successful bite!
Saturday, I had a few running around things that I wanted to do. Accomplished and at home for nap and then a date afternoon. We got back home from our date around 7:15pm. We let the in laws babysit the kids and told them that the girls should be in bed by 7pm. Of course we get home and they are NOT in bed. In law tells us that they rocked a little and they were trying to wind down. Whatever!! First, they know that we do not rock the girls to sleep. They may live in fantasy land but it was just not feasible for us to rock the girls to sleep. We put them in bed and they may fuss a few minutes but they either go right to sleep or talk to each other before going to sleep. J tells them to wait a couple minutes and we will put them to bed and then we could talk more. Of course the m in law didn't want to wait because she didn't want to hear them crying. Really??? I am hoping that when we spend several days at the beach with them that they will see our method and understand how it works. Because it really does work. ( the kicker is that my sis in law, their daughter, also have twins. my in laws are at her house all the time and practically raise her kids and their bedtime situation is much different than ours and also a lot more chaotic. meaning, I cant stand it. but that is a whole other situation/story!) Funny thing is the girls didn't even fuss that night!
Sunday was church and it was a good day!
Monday was July 4th! I decided last minute to call a friend and see if we could use her pool that morning. Thankfully she said yes and by 8:30 we were pooling it! The girls did great and I believe are going to do great when we go to the beach! I cannot wait!
That evening J said to me that it was a great weekend and wanted to know why this weekend seem so much easier and more relaxed then normal? He wanted to repeat it! I hope this is a sign that things are getting a little less chaotic in my organized chaos! :)
On another note... The girls were moved to regular booster seats at the table. We now eat as a family of 5 at our dinner table and I love it!
Also, we played with play-doh yesterday for the first time. I got brave and tried not to worry about the mess. The twins loved it and H has always loved playdoh. Good times and not too much mess. They did try to eat it but never took a successful bite!
Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Pet peeve...
After going out of town this weekend, I have started noticing more and more places that do not have a changing table in their bathrooms! This is horrible!!!!
We stopped at one particular fast food joint to change babies and also pick up lunch. It was brand new and had a play place. I was sure that they would have a changing table in the bathroom. But NO... of course it was early enough and the manager was the one taking the order so she heard me say that there was not one and that I was going to have to change the baby in the car. She pulled a chair from a table and put it in the bathroom for me to change A on. This was a good idea but not practical. Can you see changing a toddler that is over 32 inches long on a seat that is much less than that wide? But, I made do and changed a poopy diaper on that little chair. I decided though to change L in the van.
Every restaurant should have a changing station!!
One other is the high chairs. Number one, they should be cleaned after every use!!! I know this may be hard but they clean the tables, shouldn't the chair that a baby sits in also be cleaned?? The other thing, have more that one high chair! We stayed at a hotel that offered a complimentary breakfast. Three stories of hotel and only ONE high chair! Crazy!!
OK, enough ranting. But I am getting good at changing a diaper in the van/car!
Sorry one more. The straps on the said high chairs should WORK! If they don't, then they are useless!! This also goes for grocery carts, if the straps are broken then it defeats the purpose!
We stopped at one particular fast food joint to change babies and also pick up lunch. It was brand new and had a play place. I was sure that they would have a changing table in the bathroom. But NO... of course it was early enough and the manager was the one taking the order so she heard me say that there was not one and that I was going to have to change the baby in the car. She pulled a chair from a table and put it in the bathroom for me to change A on. This was a good idea but not practical. Can you see changing a toddler that is over 32 inches long on a seat that is much less than that wide? But, I made do and changed a poopy diaper on that little chair. I decided though to change L in the van.
Every restaurant should have a changing station!!
One other is the high chairs. Number one, they should be cleaned after every use!!! I know this may be hard but they clean the tables, shouldn't the chair that a baby sits in also be cleaned?? The other thing, have more that one high chair! We stayed at a hotel that offered a complimentary breakfast. Three stories of hotel and only ONE high chair! Crazy!!
OK, enough ranting. But I am getting good at changing a diaper in the van/car!
Sorry one more. The straps on the said high chairs should WORK! If they don't, then they are useless!! This also goes for grocery carts, if the straps are broken then it defeats the purpose!
Mommy & Son date...
Yesterday I had a great privilege to take H to see Cars2! Every since he was a little guy and the first movie came out, I have been saying that they needed to make a second one. Well, let me just say that it took them long enough. My review... it was great! Full of action and my son loved it! I was afraid that he was getting too big but it seems that he is still in love with Cars.
I got off at 1pm and picked him up. I purchased the tickets before hand so all we had to do was walk right up and go in. Potty first, then concessions, then movie! Me, a $ coke and $ popcorn and H, a blue icee and m&ms. We walked in just as the previews started. By the way, previews are horrible to watch for 20-30 min before the movie even starts. That should be what they play before movie time. H kept asking me it is starting, over and over.
We got out of there a little before 4pm and then went to pick the sisters up and went home for a spaghetti dinner.
Great day!
I got off at 1pm and picked him up. I purchased the tickets before hand so all we had to do was walk right up and go in. Potty first, then concessions, then movie! Me, a $ coke and $ popcorn and H, a blue icee and m&ms. We walked in just as the previews started. By the way, previews are horrible to watch for 20-30 min before the movie even starts. That should be what they play before movie time. H kept asking me it is starting, over and over.
We got out of there a little before 4pm and then went to pick the sisters up and went home for a spaghetti dinner.
Great day!
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Blessed...
Look around, there is always someone who has it worse.
Last night we went and heard a speaker at church. About three years ago, she was living a dream life in California with her husband and 3 months old son. Then, she had a brain aneurysm. She spoke of her recovery and how she saw God in every step of the way. Yes, she still struggled and is still struggling but she knows that God will see her through. Amazing!
I love what she said about marriage being a choice. You can choose the worlds way or you can choose Gods way. We made a covenant with God on the day we got married. We daily choose to serve and love our spouses. This is so very true.
Even with being out of town all weekend and then forgetting about the Monday night service until Monday morning. I still was very grateful that we went. The kids did great and everything worked out. And I even got a thank you from my husband and he said he was glad he went because he got something out of it too!
Sometimes we get down, wether it be finacially, family or marriage issues, or health. But this is only a season in our life! Look for the positive attitude and He will get us through!
Last night we went and heard a speaker at church. About three years ago, she was living a dream life in California with her husband and 3 months old son. Then, she had a brain aneurysm. She spoke of her recovery and how she saw God in every step of the way. Yes, she still struggled and is still struggling but she knows that God will see her through. Amazing!
I love what she said about marriage being a choice. You can choose the worlds way or you can choose Gods way. We made a covenant with God on the day we got married. We daily choose to serve and love our spouses. This is so very true.
Even with being out of town all weekend and then forgetting about the Monday night service until Monday morning. I still was very grateful that we went. The kids did great and everything worked out. And I even got a thank you from my husband and he said he was glad he went because he got something out of it too!
Sometimes we get down, wether it be finacially, family or marriage issues, or health. But this is only a season in our life! Look for the positive attitude and He will get us through!
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